If you go to your backyard and scream at an apple tree to "grow faster," nothing happens. The tree grows fruit naturally because of its connection to the roots, the water, and the sun. Getting the Fruit of the Spirit works the same way.
Here is how the "botany" of the Christian life works according to Paul’s letters:
1. Stay Connected to the Source (The Root)
In John 15, Jesus says, "I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me... you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing." You don’t "get" the fruit by working harder on your personality. You get it by "abiding" or staying close to God in a deliberate, daily journey of the heart rather than a one-time achievement. For example: one stays close to God via Bible study, Bible reading, prayer, worship,
Think of it like a friendship. The more time you spend with someone, the more you start to talk and act like them. "Abiding" just means keeping the conversation going with God through prayer, reading the Bible, and simply being aware of His presence.
2. Walk and Keep in Step
Paul uses two specific metaphors in Galatians 5 to describe how to interact with the Spirit:
Walking by the Spirit: This is a daily, step-by-step dependence. It’s like using a GPS—you check it at every turn. When you feel an impulse to get angry, you "check in" and ask the Spirit for patience instead.
Keeping in Step: This is like marching in a band or dancing with a partner. You aren't leading; you’re following the Spirit's rhythm. If the Spirit moves toward "kindness," you move your feet in that direction too.
3. Starve the Weeds
Paul contrasts the Fruit of the Spirit with the "Works of the Flesh" (things like jealousy, rage, and selfishness). In a garden, fruit grows better when you pull the weeds. Paul calls this "crucifying the flesh." It’s the intentional decision to stop feeding old, selfish habits so that the new, spiritual ones have room to grow.
4. Be Patient with the Season
Fruit doesn't appear overnight. It takes time, soil, and seasons. Most people get frustrated because they don't become "perfectly patient" a week after praying for it. But spiritual fruit is a sign of maturity, not an instant magic trick. It grows gradually as you stay connected to the "Vine."
Building on the "Root vs. Fruit" analogy we discussed, these are the "apples" that naturally grow on the tree when the Holy Spirit is the root. Paul lists them as a single "fruit" (singular) to show they are a package deal—as you grow in one, you tend to grow in all of them.
The Nine-Fold Fruit
Love: Unconditional, sacrificial care for others (the "Agape" kind of love).
Joy: A deep-seated gladness that stays steady even when life gets hard.
Peace: An inner quietness and the ability to be a peacemaker with others.
Patience: Staying calm and enduring through difficult people or situations.
Kindness: Being friendly, generous, and considerate in how you treat people.
Goodness: Moral integrity and doing the right thing, even when no one is looking.
Faithfulness: Being loyal, trustworthy, and reliable in your commitments.
Gentleness: Using your strength with humility and tenderness instead of force.
Self-control: Having mastery over your impulses, emotions, and desires.
Why Paul Wrote This
Paul gave this list as a diagnostic tool. In the verses right before this (Galatians 5:19-21), he lists the "Acts of the Flesh" (like rage, jealousy, and selfishness).
His point was: If your life is producing "rage and selfishness," you might have a root problem. But if your life is producing "love and self-control," it’s a good indicator that the Spirit is at work in you.
In the original Greek, the word is enkrateia, which literally means "inner strength" or "holding oneself in."
If self-control is a fruit that is "produced," how do we actually get more of it without just relying on willpower?
1. Change the Power Source
Most people try to use Willpower, which is like a battery—it runs out of juice by the end of a long day. Paul suggests using Spirit-power.
Instead of saying, "I have to try harder to stop [bad habit]," the approach is, "I need to ask the Spirit to take the lead at this moment." It’s shifting from a DIY project to a partnership.
2. The "Bridge" Between Thought and Action
Self-control is essentially the ability to create a "gap" between a feeling and a reaction.
You feel a "Work of the Flesh" (like a fit of rage or a craving), You pause and "keep in step" with the Spirit, You choose the Fruit (like Gentleness or Patience).
3. Training, Not Just Trying
Paul often uses the analogy of an athlete to describe self-control."Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training." (1 Corinthians 9:25) An athlete doesn't just "try hard" on the day of the race; they train their body every day. In the same way, self-control grows through small, daily wins, like choosing to wake up on time or holding your tongue during a minor annoyance, so that you’re ready for the big temptations.
The "Weeds" in the Garden
- Relationship Wreckers: Hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, and factions. (These are the most common "weeds" that kill peace and kindness).
- Sexual Misuse: Sexual immorality, impurity, and debauchery.
- Spiritual Distractions: Idolatry and witchcraft (putting anything else in the place of God).
- Lack of Discipline: Drunkenness, orgies, and "the like."
If you feel like your life is producing more "discord" than "peace," Paul suggests a three-step gardening plan:
Identify the Weed: Be honest about which one is popping up. Is it "selfish ambition"? Is it "fits of rage"?
Starve It: Don't give that behavior what it wants. If you struggle with "discord," stop engaging in the gossip or the arguments that feed it.
Replace It: This is the most important part. You don't just "stop being angry." You "abide" in the source of Peace. When you pull a weed, you have to plant something else in that hole, or a new weed will just grow back.